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Dead Naming & Being Born Again
The hypocrisy of believing trangender transformations, but not Christian ones
This is going to be a slightly different article. This particular hypocrisy just occurred to me and I thought I’d write about it. People in the drama triangle don’t stand on principles. They switch roles, playing a victim or savior depending on the current situation because they can’t stand firm on a core foundational belief. This is how someone, like Cori Bush, can say within a matter of minutes that police should be defunded, but private security for herself is necessary. The people who protect us from criminals can be considered “persecutors” or “saviors” depending on who you want to be the “persecutor.” If you’re playing the victim and want your political opponents to be the “persecutors” then the law-enforcement types become the savior. For some people, how they feel about law enforcement changes based on the current topic and there’s no stable principled stance. Because of a tendency to use this form of mental gymnastics, people stuck in the drama triangle are often hypocrites.
I’ve previously written about what the word “name” means. It doesn’t just mean a label to call someone, it also means reputation and character. I wrote about how some people are giving the rainbow flag a bad reputation, or “bad name,” in the following substack article.
Dead-Naming & Misgendering
For people who believe that it is absolutely wrong to refer to someone who identifies as being trans as their biological sex (that didn’t change) or their old name (dead name), the reason they are upset is not that the “label” simply sounds different. They’re upset because they believe the old name or sex is a different character or state of being than the new one. They believe the person has transitioned into a new way of being that is being missed when the old “name” or “gender” is used.
In a sense, they believe the person has died to their old self and been reborn into a new character or state of being. I discussed some of the similarities between Christian Gnosticism and the Gendered-Souls belief in the following substack article.
I’m going to use Mike Lindell as an example because I’ve read his biography (What Are the Odds?) and he’s relatively famous enough for this. But, there are many examples of people changing their character through repentance that you can bring to your mind. This could be anyone.
Mike Lindell was a crack addict. He was a gambler and a liar. He was someone that most people would have wanted nothing to do with. But he also helped people with their drug problems while he struggled with his own. And, eventually, he gave up drugs, repented, and turned his life over to Christ. He chose to do God’s will rather than his own. He could say he died to his old self and was reborn.
Jimmy Kimmel did bring up Mike’s past, of course, and mentioned that with a crack addiction comes paranoia. He suggests that Mike is still suffering from paranoia. Understandably, this is a joke, but it’s also an example of how someone would bring up the past and say, “Perhaps you are still who you used to be. Perhaps you haven’t changed at all.”
Do you believe Jimmy Kimmel would ever jokingly ask someone who identifies as transgender if maybe they have not changed genders, really? It’s something that wouldn’t even be joked about or, if it was joked about, someone might get “canceled” for joking about it.
Hating Your Dead Name or Praising It?
People who identify as transgender tend to not like being dead-named or misgendered. I discuss why they hate it in the following substack article. The basic gist is that they don’t want to take personal responsibility for feeling comfortable in who they are, so they make it everyone else’s responsibility to make them feel comfortable.
But, for a man like Mike Lindell, taking personal responsibility to get clean from drugs, he doesn’t make it other people’s responsibility to make sure he feels comfortable in his recovery. He went on Jimmy Kimmel and allowed others to totally make fun of him and not take him seriously because he’s 100% confident in his recovery and doesn’t need their approval or agreement.
Mike doesn’t hide from his past. He doesn’t mind if people know who he used to be. He praises the change that he believes God made in him when he stopped fighting God and started to take personal responsibility for his messed up life. He knows he wouldn’t be the man he is today if it wasn’t for his past. He wouldn’t have started his recovery network for other addicts if it wasn’t for this change in himself. He knows that people can change remarkably and help society out when they do. He knows that whatever crap happened in past can be used as fertilizer to grow something wonderful for this world.
Hypocrisy Spans Political Spectrums
This hypocrisy isn’t a political issue. I’m sure many Republicans look down on people’s pasts with disdain, regardless if those people have repented and changed character since then. It will always be those repentant people’s responsibility to feel comfortable with their change, and not the world’s responsibility to agree that they have made a definite change.
I just wanted to write about the hypocrisy of believing someone who identifies as transgender as if they have died to their old self, and then completely disregarding a Christian who claims the same thing. If you believe that people can change drastically enough to actually “change genders,” then I believe that belief should include people changing their characters.
Someone might argue that if Christians believe you can change character then why can’t they believe you can change gender? The problem is a disagreement on the word gender. Gender is basically a word for personality. It’s not like people who believe in transgenderism actually believe you can change genders. They think they were born in the wrong body and so they think they have to change their body to match their gender (because they believe that gender doesn’t or shouldn’t change). Most (if not all) Christians agree that you can’t change your gender (personality). Many simply disagree that changing the body will help.
Some Things Can Be Changed, Some Can’t
There are many parts to a human being that can change over time. A few examples of character would be whether or not you’re addicted to a substance or person, love drama, or take personal responsibility. I would say your personality is not really going to change much at all, so I don’t believe a gender could be changed, even using their definition of gender. My definition of gender would be related to biological sex which definitely can’t be changed.
But taking personal responsibility and maturing is something we should all strive for and is possible for many. Some people get stuck in old habits and surround themselves with enablers and so they may never change to be less-drama-filled.
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Reminder To Enforce Your Boundaries
Our world today is actually enabling many people to stay in the drama triangle. We need to be the ones who enforce our boundaries because too many other people are not. When you enforce your boundaries you are letting other people know that you won’t take their abuse. They will eventually leave you alone and find other people who will take the abuse. If we all stopped taking the abuse, then the abusers would hit rock bottom and take personal responsibility. But, as I mentioned, many people are enabling bad behavior today. Society’s enabling is helping the bad behavior of abusers thrive. Just say no.