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Looking For Saviors Makes You Feel Powerless
Needing someone else to "save" you increases your feelings of instability & fear
I’ve written about miswanting before because today people keep looking for solutions. We’ve got people going through painful surgeries and taking hormones trying to change their bodies because they think it will “save” them from the feelings they feel right now.
And there are those who long for their government to ban guns or mandate vaccines and/or masks so that their feelings of fear can subside. People keep thinking these feelings of (emotional, mental, or physical) insecurity can be solved by changing the physical world around them. They’re miswanting.
Even if they got the physical/governmental changes they were after, the feelings of insecurity would not go away, they would just transfer to something new. You cannot transfer/shift the responsibility for your own feelings onto other people.
Ultimately, it is your responsibility to care for your thoughts and feelings, and no one else’s. And you shouldn’t want to transfer that responsibility to someone else anyway, because that just makes you a slave to those people and whether or not they choose to comply. When you try to make someone else responsible for your feeling of safety, you are putting your emotional state in their hands. Are you sure they won’t drop it? Are you sure they’re stable enough to always keep you feeling safe? What if they die or “drop the ball.” If you’re rational, you can see how dangerous that is.
When you come to terms with the fact that your thoughts and feelings are your own responsibility and not to be shifted around to others, you start to realize how much power you have.
People have gotten into the habit of playing “victim” and feeling scared, longing for the government to come in and save them, so they can sleep at night. We’ve let the government have a lot more power and control than they ever had, especially with the whole COVID reaction. Did it help? Or did people’s fears stay and shift around to other things? You know the fear stayed, and it grew.
It grew because you are afraid when you feel powerless, and the more you shift power away from yourself onto something else (like the government), the less powerful you personally feel.
Someone afraid of COVID may have wanted the government to have more power (to save them) but then their fear simply shifted to worries about Trump having too much power. What a conundrum. The only way to actually feel okay would be to keep the government’s power to a minimum and personally work on your own thoughts and feelings so you feel safe regardless of what is going on outside of you.
The Solution to Worries Are Your Responsibility
Looking outside of you for a solution to calm your fears is like looking for bandaids thinking it will heal your cut. The healing comes from within your body. The healing of your mind has to come from within. The more you look to outside forces to “save” you from worries, the greater the worries become because in that process you’re trying to give away your power. Not shockingly, giving away your power to someone else makes you feel unstable and anxious.
We miswant someone else to come in and fix our problems with pills, laws, and scalpels. The change we truly desire is in our minds. That is where our true power lies. I also run a life coaching business, basically helping people to question their beliefs, because I want people to find their true power. When people find their true power (in their mind), they’ll no longer want the government to intervene, and then we can finally have a society that doesn’t yearn for an overreaching government and stops voting that way.
You may enjoy this video from Michael Singer, author of The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment. Those are affiliate links if you want to support the substack by simply purchasing a book. I loved the Surrender Experiment, personally. His course is good too. Watching the video below kickstarted this article in my mind, so that’s why I’m sharing it here.