Society is Becoming Desensitized to Abuse
and learning to become abusers as if that is the "new normal"
I’ve spoken and written about the Honeymoon Effect before. Basically, people feel more excited and happy when getting engaged, and marrying, but after the honeymoon, they become desensitized (accustomed) to what it feels like to be married. When they have adapted to the change, the excitement and happiness boost goes away. There are things you can do to keep that up (mostly focusing on appreciating what you have), but it’s not the point of this article so I won’t go into it further here.
There are things in this world that I see society becoming more adapted to which means they’re being desensitized in ways I wish they wouldn’t be. This is because it makes it more likely they will start a genocide.
You don’t have to agree with me, but I personally believe factory farming of animals desensitized people to feel like it was ok to quarantine mass amounts of people during the lockdowns. I think our society has become accustomed to being okay with animals locked in cages more than we ever have in human history so it was not a leap to do it to people.
I also believe the mass abortions have led people to believe it’s okay to essentially medically rape others through mass mandates and coercion concerning vaccines. There are many similarities between the two, even many abortions using a literal needle. So long as people believe the infant poses harm to the mother and the unvaccinated post harm to “society,” people are okay with injecting them even if it could lead to their death.
If I say people are becoming more desensitized, it sounds weird when people are becoming more “sensitive,” right? What I mean is that people are becoming accustomed to the “new normal.”
Not everyone is, which is what is causing a lot of the problems. Many people will never accept that “new normal” and are interacting with others (who do like the “new normal”) like oil and water.
But the people (acting like victims or saviors), who became desensitized to complaining about persecutors all the time, are now very accustomed to scapegoating in a way they were not before. They also talk about stochastic terrorism which is a form of scapegoating too.
Critical Theory could be defined as finding something to critique in everything in society. Critical Race Theory (CRT) is not about asking, “Is there racism here?” it’s about asking with a presumption of racism, “Where is the racism here?” There is a mindset of always looking for a problem. They’re always looking for a persecutor, even if one doesn’t exist.
So, yes, people are more sensitive to inequalities (or simply perceived inequalities). But I am saying they’re accustomed to (desensitized to) complaining and getting offended all the time. They don’t understand that it is actually weird or unusual to complain and get offended as much as they do.
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Some people are very used to wondering what the COVID infection rate is. Many people don’t care. There is this gulf of perception of the world between them. People on the other side don’t understand what it is like to worry about COVID as much as others do. People who are afraid of and worry about COVID have no idea what it is like to not worry and complain about it.
We adapt to things relatively quickly. When you bake cookies or a pie you adapt to the smell and hours later someone new can come in the house and smell them but you’ve become nose-blind to it. This works to our advantage and disadvantage. If there is an awful smell, you can become used to it also which is good if you’re passing through somewhere on a journey. But if that awful smell is dangerous (like mold) and in your house, you might forget about it and not check up on it.
We also become used to the cold as the seasons transition into winter. It would be awful going through winter every year if we couldn’t adapt to cold in the way we do. You can tell you’ve adapted when the same temperature in fall (that you think is very cold) appearing in spring makes you feel like it’s warm out.
Many people become used to being abused. Just like someone can be nose-blind to good smells and have someone come in and be happy about the pleasant smell, abused people have no understanding of the abuse that a shocked outsider looking in at the situation will have. This is why people who have never been abused find it so bizarre that others will stay in abusive situations. Abused people adapt to being abused and can’t recognize it as such. Adapting can be very beneficial but it can also lead to staying in extremely dangerous situations.
I believe our society has done a lot of adapting to things they shouldn’t have allowed themselves to adapt to so quickly. Children expect to have things like phones and internet access earlier than ever before, and that can cause issues with social media and the dopamine response that it gives and the sexually suggestive material that they really didn’t need to adapt to at such a young age. People have adapted to thinking children are sexual from birth (in part due to Alfred Kinsey paying pedophiles to rape children and report their perceptions).
At this moment in time, we’re adapting to having the government take the role of abuser allowing them to use coercion and bullying to get what they want. People are so used to it that they can’t even describe it as such.
It is frustrating to recognize abusive tactics and to watch people be completely okay to be abused by their own government. It’s frustrating to watch people become more and more abusive to their friends and family simply because society is becoming more desensitized to abuse.
They lied to themselves about why they wanted to force vaccines, masks, and lockdowns on others, saying they were helping save people. They never considered that they were hurting their fellow men and women. They never thought about the people who would die from vaccines, hurt themselves from masks, or have their livelihoods ruined by lockdowns. Or if they considered it, they felt it was “worth it.”
So, our society is becoming used to being abusers and being abused. If you’re reading this you probably understand that very clearly. People could have held on to freedom if they appreciated it enough and wouldn’t have let it go so easily. I will always be shocked at how people rolled over in 2020 as I couldn’t understand emotionally letting those freedoms go so easily. But at least I understand it intellectually. Society is becoming completely desensitized to abuse. It’s a problem only they can solve though.
People will need to hit rock bottom before deciding that they want to not be abused any longer and then they will take steps to free themselves from the abuse. And when people want help with that, I’ll be here.