It’s possible that just as we are being asked to deny our intuition and hard wired responses, we are being gaslit to believe that looks of contempt are not contempt but are fear. When you consider all the lies we are being asked to believe, it seems plausible to me. Up is down, right is wrong, etc.
Those ads trigger me, LOL!!!! It's not my responsibility to coddle someone's emotions, much less someone I don't know in random social interactions. If someone makes me uncomfortable for any reason, trans or not, I I can choose to walk away without excuse. In the hypothetical scene, the "MAN" assumes the woman left the elevator because of "him" which reveals his self consciousness - -- could have been another reason she ran out, like she forgot something....but what then, a person has to stop their whole day to appease someone who is emotionally unstable....every look, action, interaction a suffocating attempt to not offend someone. Safety has to be cultivated on all levels. If you want to feel more safe, physically you can learn a martial art (or something like that)...if you want to feel more safe spiritually, you can commune with the Divine...if you want to feel more safe emotionally, then you are going to have to look at your triggers, trauma and issues....all concepts of safety require personal responsibility and accountability, not victimhood. If you want to walk around in a bubble your whole life to try to maintain an illusion or belief of safety it's not going to be realistic or healthy for anyone. It's like the mask fiasco, people would get so triggered and use the "seatbelt" analogy of wearing it to "feel safe" like they wear the masks to "feel safe" (from an invisible enemy) to which I said, I don't usually wear a seat belt and then they would get even more angry. I try to look for the humanness in people, but clearly there is mental instability and un-wellness that I won't pretend isn't there. Feeling safe starts with being comfortable with who you are...life is uncomfortable, safety is pretty much an illusion. I love the paragraph where you say this: "Anyone confident in their identity wouldn’t care what other people thought of them." - So on point!!!!
This is basically where I'm at. It's our responsibility to emotionally, mentally, and spiritually come to a place of feeling safe in this world. Most of us don't because our parents and caretakers have scared the shit out of us when younger. But now that we're adults it's time to come to grips with that, whether through meditation, learning survival skills, exercising, or seeing a good therapist.
It does not mean we should make other people cater to our problems and make it their responsibility, because eventually they will not be there for us and we'll end up feeling that terror again. The only way to get through that when alone is to take complete responsibility for our emotions now. And your comment was so good I shared it on note. Thanks.
I agree Barbara. I certainly have had to do a massive amount of work to break through the fear, anxiety, programming, triggers ...it's not fun, but it's necessary to be a mature adult.
There are a good many people who, when frightened, immediately get angry. But it skews male. It is an adaptive trait when your plan is to attack, or at least be ready to attack, physically or otherwise the person who threatened you, and some women do this -- especially those who delight in skewering those weaker than they are by well-chosen words. But mostly this is done by men, when it is done at all. I saw the ad and thought 'woman on the inside. huh? Sure doesn't look like it.'
It’s incredible to me that a government feels the need to tranny groom a country to accept 0.4% of the population. And where a broader Aboriginal Australian audience likely experiences more discrimination. What a waste of taxpayer money.
if you are a trans woman there are a few things that you need to understand. First of all is that you are still a man because you can't change your biological sex. It's okay to dress any way you wish and to adopt any superficial, stereotypical attributes of women that you desire. Live your life. No one should care, I certainly don't. However, because women are entitled to be treated fairly and to enjoy privacy from men there are certain things that are prohibited to you and me because we are men. You can't compete against women in most sports because it would be unfair. You can't go into women's private places like restrooms and locker rooms because that would make them feel unsafe. If you are a criminal you certainly can't be imprisoned with women. Finally, no one who is aware that you are actually a man should be required to accept your subjective view of yourself.
Words like “safety,” “violence,” and “harm” have completely lost all meaning. People now refer to someone sharing an opinion they don’t agree with as an “act of violence.” The more these words are misused, the more it negatively affects everyone INCLUDING trans people. I’ve seen so many headlines about trans people being victims of “violence” but when I actually read the article the “act of violence” was just someone not calling them their preferred pronouns. Eventually a trans person is going to actually be physically assaulted while walking down the street minding their own business and nobody is going to react or care because they’re going to see the headline about them being a victim of violence and just roll their eyes and keep scrolling, thinking it’s another exaggeration. It’s like the boy who cried wolf.
Getting your feelings hurt is not the same as being unsafe.
They're already long passed the boy-who-cried-wolf stage. Many people now won't consider the story to be true and won't bother to look into it. I know I don't consider the news to be true unless I can see actual video footage of it happening in context.
Clair Here💕 I would like to revisit the safety aspect.. particularly since one of the candidates came within a half inch of death…
The secret service in charge has resigned and hopefully security will tighten for all the candidates..
I hope the candidates will stop and stay on message and not go off as one candidate had …threatening that “blood will run in the streets “ should he loose .
Well , time will tell.
I’m feeling optimistic that the candidates will stay on message and campaign on their vision for us..
Much love to everyone including my LGBTQ brothers and sisters 💕Clair
Hi Barbara..Clair here💕 Just wanted to tell you-touch base on the “safety issue”.. I have had reoccurring thoughts about what you said.. back in July.. I’ve come to the conclusion that your well thought out approach is the correct one .. thanks for sharing.. ML Clair💕
The feeling of safety is only found when one takes personal responsibility for their feelings/emotions. I wrote about how many humans reject taking personal responsibility for their lives, whereas animals take 100% hre: https://www.thedramaofitall.com/p/trusting-animals-not-humans-to-take
If you put the responsibility of feeling safe onto other people, you will never feel truly safe because people are fickle and sometimes cannot possibly do anything to help (like when they die). Our feeling of safety is 100% our responsibility.
It’s possible that just as we are being asked to deny our intuition and hard wired responses, we are being gaslit to believe that looks of contempt are not contempt but are fear. When you consider all the lies we are being asked to believe, it seems plausible to me. Up is down, right is wrong, etc.
Could be!
Those ads trigger me, LOL!!!! It's not my responsibility to coddle someone's emotions, much less someone I don't know in random social interactions. If someone makes me uncomfortable for any reason, trans or not, I I can choose to walk away without excuse. In the hypothetical scene, the "MAN" assumes the woman left the elevator because of "him" which reveals his self consciousness - -- could have been another reason she ran out, like she forgot something....but what then, a person has to stop their whole day to appease someone who is emotionally unstable....every look, action, interaction a suffocating attempt to not offend someone. Safety has to be cultivated on all levels. If you want to feel more safe, physically you can learn a martial art (or something like that)...if you want to feel more safe spiritually, you can commune with the Divine...if you want to feel more safe emotionally, then you are going to have to look at your triggers, trauma and issues....all concepts of safety require personal responsibility and accountability, not victimhood. If you want to walk around in a bubble your whole life to try to maintain an illusion or belief of safety it's not going to be realistic or healthy for anyone. It's like the mask fiasco, people would get so triggered and use the "seatbelt" analogy of wearing it to "feel safe" like they wear the masks to "feel safe" (from an invisible enemy) to which I said, I don't usually wear a seat belt and then they would get even more angry. I try to look for the humanness in people, but clearly there is mental instability and un-wellness that I won't pretend isn't there. Feeling safe starts with being comfortable with who you are...life is uncomfortable, safety is pretty much an illusion. I love the paragraph where you say this: "Anyone confident in their identity wouldn’t care what other people thought of them." - So on point!!!!
This is basically where I'm at. It's our responsibility to emotionally, mentally, and spiritually come to a place of feeling safe in this world. Most of us don't because our parents and caretakers have scared the shit out of us when younger. But now that we're adults it's time to come to grips with that, whether through meditation, learning survival skills, exercising, or seeing a good therapist.
It does not mean we should make other people cater to our problems and make it their responsibility, because eventually they will not be there for us and we'll end up feeling that terror again. The only way to get through that when alone is to take complete responsibility for our emotions now. And your comment was so good I shared it on note. Thanks.
I agree Barbara. I certainly have had to do a massive amount of work to break through the fear, anxiety, programming, triggers ...it's not fun, but it's necessary to be a mature adult.
There are a good many people who, when frightened, immediately get angry. But it skews male. It is an adaptive trait when your plan is to attack, or at least be ready to attack, physically or otherwise the person who threatened you, and some women do this -- especially those who delight in skewering those weaker than they are by well-chosen words. But mostly this is done by men, when it is done at all. I saw the ad and thought 'woman on the inside. huh? Sure doesn't look like it.'
Yes. That fear response can go multiple ways, and for many it switches to "anger" and kicks the person into the "fight" response rather than fleeing.
It’s incredible to me that a government feels the need to tranny groom a country to accept 0.4% of the population. And where a broader Aboriginal Australian audience likely experiences more discrimination. What a waste of taxpayer money.
It was a waste of taxpayer money, and, in a sense, an actual attack on people's normal fear response.
if you are a trans woman there are a few things that you need to understand. First of all is that you are still a man because you can't change your biological sex. It's okay to dress any way you wish and to adopt any superficial, stereotypical attributes of women that you desire. Live your life. No one should care, I certainly don't. However, because women are entitled to be treated fairly and to enjoy privacy from men there are certain things that are prohibited to you and me because we are men. You can't compete against women in most sports because it would be unfair. You can't go into women's private places like restrooms and locker rooms because that would make them feel unsafe. If you are a criminal you certainly can't be imprisoned with women. Finally, no one who is aware that you are actually a man should be required to accept your subjective view of yourself.
That's it, just like me.
Clair here💕Safety is such a big priority in the lives of most .. I know it is in mine.. this is particularly true when you (I) live outside the “box”
As a transgender woman who is 90 this has been a particularly difficult challenge.
However, I do agree with you that each of us has to take responsibility for our actions.
I also find besides my own personal responsibility I also rely on the act of others for my safety.
However, I live in such a diversified environment that isn’t always possible.
The more I consider this issue, the more it morphs into something that I hadn’t considered or expected .
Thanks you for sharing your thoughts,it has helped me look from a different perspective. ML💕Clair
I'm glad you were able to see things from a new perspective.
Thanks Barbara, Clair here💕
Sometimes it just takes a kindly prompt to see in a different light..
ML💕Clair
Words like “safety,” “violence,” and “harm” have completely lost all meaning. People now refer to someone sharing an opinion they don’t agree with as an “act of violence.” The more these words are misused, the more it negatively affects everyone INCLUDING trans people. I’ve seen so many headlines about trans people being victims of “violence” but when I actually read the article the “act of violence” was just someone not calling them their preferred pronouns. Eventually a trans person is going to actually be physically assaulted while walking down the street minding their own business and nobody is going to react or care because they’re going to see the headline about them being a victim of violence and just roll their eyes and keep scrolling, thinking it’s another exaggeration. It’s like the boy who cried wolf.
Getting your feelings hurt is not the same as being unsafe.
They're already long passed the boy-who-cried-wolf stage. Many people now won't consider the story to be true and won't bother to look into it. I know I don't consider the news to be true unless I can see actual video footage of it happening in context.
Clair Here💕 I would like to revisit the safety aspect.. particularly since one of the candidates came within a half inch of death…
The secret service in charge has resigned and hopefully security will tighten for all the candidates..
I hope the candidates will stop and stay on message and not go off as one candidate had …threatening that “blood will run in the streets “ should he loose .
Well , time will tell.
I’m feeling optimistic that the candidates will stay on message and campaign on their vision for us..
Much love to everyone including my LGBTQ brothers and sisters 💕Clair
It seems that we differ on the safety issue .
Yes, I do agree that we have individual responsibility.
We also have Public Safety groups . I.e. the police and other similar to many to name…also the judiciary and local government commissions.
.. building/electrical inspectors ect…
While personal responsibility is important , it isn’t the only answer.
💕Clair
For me, there is no place safe - I only have safe people. If my intuition alerts me in an elevator to get off, I’m getting off.
Hi Barbara..Clair here💕 Just wanted to tell you-touch base on the “safety issue”.. I have had reoccurring thoughts about what you said.. back in July.. I’ve come to the conclusion that your well thought out approach is the correct one .. thanks for sharing.. ML Clair💕
OPPs .. Clair here💕
….. to defend.. They are both looking for “safety”. It’s a natural order and found through out nature.
ML 💕Clair
The feeling of safety is only found when one takes personal responsibility for their feelings/emotions. I wrote about how many humans reject taking personal responsibility for their lives, whereas animals take 100% hre: https://www.thedramaofitall.com/p/trusting-animals-not-humans-to-take
If you put the responsibility of feeling safe onto other people, you will never feel truly safe because people are fickle and sometimes cannot possibly do anything to help (like when they die). Our feeling of safety is 100% our responsibility.
Clare here 💕Interesting post…
I’m wondering what prompted this proposition?
What about “feeling safe” and
is do controversial? It seems that most if not all conflicts have their genius’s in
Thus venue. We have the agressor and the aggrieved .
One wants to dominate and the other
What proposition? I'm not sure what the other sentences you wrote mean as they are not written in correct English grammar.