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Why Do I Care About Personality Being Confused for Gender?
Gender Role Quiz
I saw “Undifferentiated-Androgynous” was trending on Twitter and apparently there is some sort of quiz out there to see how much you fit the 2 gender roles. Apparently, the quiz only thinks there are two genders, which is what we all used to think when the term gender equaled biological sex.
After working on this article scattered throughout the day, hours later and “Casually Feminine” and “Casually Masculine” is trending. I can see many people were taking this quiz today.
I have said before that what people today call “gender roles” are basically what we called “personality” growing up in the 80s. The questions on this quiz were mostly 1-word questions and you have to answer how much you feel that word or phrase represents you. A few examples: “moody,” “helpful,” “yielding,” “individualistic,” and “sentimental.”
I have been misgendered online probably because people take my strong, logical (less emotional), takes to be that of a male. You can see why that didn’t bother me by reading my older essay on why it bothers people to be misgendered here:
My “Gender” Results
My results are below. Yup. I’m more masculine according to this quiz. Hey, at least the quiz said, my “personality is:” when describing the results. Yes, it’s about personality. Gender is nothing but personality repackaged.
This test was constructed on the basis of the following studies:
Donnelly & Twenge: Masculine and Feminine Traits on the Bem Sex-Role Inventory, 1993–2012: a Cross-Temporal Meta-Analysis (Sex Roles 0360-0025 2016)
Holt & Ellis: Assessing the Current Validity of the Bem Sex-Role Inventory (Sex Roles Volume 39, Issue 11-12 1998)
Lee & Kashubeck-West: Factor Structure of the Bem Sex Role Inventory in Samples of Ethnically Diverse Young Adults in the U.S. (Journal of Asia Pacific Counseling 2015)
Robinson, Shaver & Wrightsman (eds.): Measures of Personality and Social Psychological Attitudes: Measures of Social Psychological Attitudes (Academic Press 2013)
Notice that all of the dates on those are after the 1980s. The earliest is the 1998 one. The other studies were finished and written in the 2010s.
Conforming to Gender Roles
In the tweet above there is a picture of a case study from the UK’s Tavistock clinic. I’ll quote it below, forgive the incorrect pronouns as I quote exactly what it says about this male child.
Hannah describes how there were early signs that she was trans, and not a boy. ‘I did ballet dancing, and I hated sports, which was a very strong indicator of more of a feminine leaning, than a masculine leaning,’ she says. She didn’t have a lot of other male friends growing up and always preferred female company.
From “Time to Think The Inside Story of the Collapse of the Tavistock's Gender Service for Children” (affiliate link to Amazon helps to support the substack)
Female girls are perceived to love children and dolls more than male children. I did not. I was indifferent to or annoyed by them depending on their volume levels. I also found males easier to relate to, probably because as I aged I didn’t get into the gossip, and drama of the girls, and, when younger, wouldn’t play dolls with them. I would go out biking and exploring with the boys as a child.
Why I Care
I am not a man and I have never wanted a male body. I have always been attracted to males. But with my personality, growing up today, I would have cultish weirdos telling me to take hormones which would mess with my mind and destroy my body taking years off my life. I would have people suggesting that if I don’t feel comfortable going through puberty I could have my breasts cut off so I wouldn’t feel self-conscious about men looking at my nipples showing through my shirt on a cold day. To this day I still am self-conscious about covering up when I’m cold.
Every child will feel uncomfortable going through puberty, and now we have cult members stalking and prying into the fragile minds of children to convert them to the cult.
There, but for the grace of God go I.
I will not stand by and not speak out for those who can’t speak because they don’t understand the long-term effects. I know the pitfalls of miswanting. People need others who are logical to speak out against the people who are using the logical fallacy “appeal to emotion” to do things that actively harm children.
Quizzes like these may be used online by fragile, scared, or self-conscious children to decide to do something drastic like mutilating their bodies. Are these quiz makers evil “persecutors” preying on children? No. I will not label quiz makers as “persecutors” and take the role of “savior” and try to suggest that quizzes like these shouldn’t exist. They have the right to make quizzes.
But, we live in a society where people are supposed to know better than to cut off healthy tissue from children’s bodies and do it anyway. They should know better than to tell people that they were “born in the wrong body” and then suggest expensive surgeries or dangerous drugs/hormones. There is child abuse running rampant under the guise of “gender affirmation” being allowed. Yet, it should be illegal under child endangerment laws. Why are people not enforcing their boundaries? Why don’t they enforce the laws we all grew up thinking we had?
Of course, the problem with this is that one side thinks it’s endangering the lives of children to “not affirm” the child’s beliefs that their body needs to change, and the other side thinks it’s endangering the lives of children “to affirm” their beliefs. Obviously, I’m one of the latter.
Am I Being Hypocritical To Care?
Am I viewing children as people “playing victims” in the drama triangle? I’m sure someone who has read my substack and thinks “gender affirmation” is good would suggest I am being a hypocrite. Why don’t I consider myself one? What is the difference?
People need to take personal responsibility to get out of the drama triangle. It’s clear that a baby has no way to take responsibility to get fed and changed. If they don’t get fed, that is abuse on the part of the parents or caretaker because that is their responsibility at that point in the child’s life. A child cannot take personal responsibility until they literally can. Now I admit it’s up for debate when that shift is.
However, these children (who ask for “gender affirmation”) clearly have been abused to get to the point where they think that their original authentic self needs to be manipulated or mutilated in order to fit into society. No child growing up in a healthy environment would have that thought or desire.
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So whose responsibility is it? The parents or caretakers should have the responsibility to raise children who don’t think they were born in the wrong body. But if the parents failed, the doctors should know better than to mutilate healthy tissue and give harmful hormones/drugs to children. The doctors should be aware of the likelihood that a parent bringing their child to be mutilated might have Munchausen by Proxy.
Doctors should also be aware that children who feel as if there is something wrong with their bodies and want to cut off healthy tissues might benefit from therapy. Their beliefs could be changed through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) in order for them to accept themselves as they are, without needing to have hormones/surgery.
Of course, the doctors today are either ignorant of other methods of treatment or being strongarmed by their higher-ups. In some places, this sort of therapy is ironically labeled as “conversion therapy” and illegal.
Our Society is Failing Children
The best way to judge someone or a society is how they treat innocent, harmless children and animals. The Democrat society is callous about abortion and male and female genital mutilation. They don’t seem to care to figure out why their beliefs cause their members to be more mentally ill either.
It’s fixable. These children don’t have to suffer mentally, emotionally, and physically. They can question their beliefs and learn to accept themselves without needing medication, HRT, or mutilation. But Democrats don’t care that it’s solvable. As I’ve said the Democrat party is the “Savior” party and that means they don’t really want people to be “saved” because it would put them out of a job.