Barbara, this was very persuasive and personally I found it to be a timely reminder to maintain high standards of behavior and to live intentionally to meet those standards.
Also, I think this part of what you pulled from Games People Play was crucial:
"[White] quickly recognized his underlying attitude (NIGYSOB) and realized how secretly …
Barbara, this was very persuasive and personally I found it to be a timely reminder to maintain high standards of behavior and to live intentionally to meet those standards.
Also, I think this part of what you pulled from Games People Play was crucial:
"[White] quickly recognized his underlying attitude (NIGYSOB) and realized how secretly delighted he had been at the plumber’s provocation. He then recalled that ever since early childhood he had looked for similar injustices, received them with delight and exploited them with the same vigor."
Psychotherapist Peter Michaelson (https://whywesuffer.com) refers to White's tendency described above as "injustice collecting." His thesis (in part) is that most people are subconsciously attached to feeling at least one of seven categories of unresolved negative emotions that he calls the first hurts of childhood (feelings of being refused, deprived, helpless, controlled, criticized, betrayed, or abandoned), and that becoming conscious of this compulsion to replay those emotions is the key to putting a stop to it. This model of the psyche has been enormously helpful to me not only in trying to overcome my own neuroses, but in understanding why others act as they do.
Thank you for saying you found the article persuasive. It helps to know that I was able to convey my thought process. I think many people are still very emotional and unable to be reasoned with logically in this manner. So the article may not get the reach or likes it could have otherwise. But I thought it was extremely important to share.
I have heard that be called "wound collecting" as well. Thanks for the information!
Barbara, this was very persuasive and personally I found it to be a timely reminder to maintain high standards of behavior and to live intentionally to meet those standards.
Also, I think this part of what you pulled from Games People Play was crucial:
"[White] quickly recognized his underlying attitude (NIGYSOB) and realized how secretly delighted he had been at the plumber’s provocation. He then recalled that ever since early childhood he had looked for similar injustices, received them with delight and exploited them with the same vigor."
Psychotherapist Peter Michaelson (https://whywesuffer.com) refers to White's tendency described above as "injustice collecting." His thesis (in part) is that most people are subconsciously attached to feeling at least one of seven categories of unresolved negative emotions that he calls the first hurts of childhood (feelings of being refused, deprived, helpless, controlled, criticized, betrayed, or abandoned), and that becoming conscious of this compulsion to replay those emotions is the key to putting a stop to it. This model of the psyche has been enormously helpful to me not only in trying to overcome my own neuroses, but in understanding why others act as they do.
Thank you for saying you found the article persuasive. It helps to know that I was able to convey my thought process. I think many people are still very emotional and unable to be reasoned with logically in this manner. So the article may not get the reach or likes it could have otherwise. But I thought it was extremely important to share.
I have heard that be called "wound collecting" as well. Thanks for the information!