John & Jane: An Example Case Here is an example to start this essay out: John Doe wants to have someone sing at an event coming up that he is putting on. He asks Jane to sing because he’s heard she’s a good singer. Jane accepts and sings at his event. Afterward, John goes up to Jane and says, “That style sure was unexpected. I don’t really think people here appreciated it.”
This is another example of how important communication is. I'm inclined to say "John" holds the most responsibility as he was responsible for organizing the event. Everyone could have communicated better. The audience could have appreciated something different. Jane could have gone above and beyond to research what would please the audience, but overall John should have researched and communicated to make sure Jane would deliver what matched the audience expectations.
John was clearly the one to blame. If you're going to ask someone to sing a song in front of an audience you know best then it's also your responsibility to make it clear to the singer what you'd like and how you'd like it to be sung.
He was contracting a service at an event, no different than catering or decorating. If he was foolish enough to make his choice off of hear say and pay money for the service, without even sampling the product, then that's on him.
What if it had been food and the cook served up intestines and entrails, with sides of monkey brains?? In many countries those are delicacies. As a consumer, it is your responsibility to ensure the product you choose to pay money for, meets your needs, wants, tastes and purposes. Unless asked to provide a product within certain parameters, the vendor should only expect to proffer their normal wares at the negotiated price.
I bet John will think twice, about following blind recommendations in the future.
In the "aftermath" what's important is that each element honestly accepts their role in the situation rather than "pointing a finger" at someone else for unmet expectations.
I agree. I think this goes back to the verse in the bible about not pointing out a piece of sawdust/speck in someone else's eye if you've got a whole log in your own. We're supposed to judge ourselves first before we start blaming other people. Too often people hypocritically blame others to try to stay feeling clean.
Well Jesus told people to go and sin no more, so I believe there are righteous people without sin who could judge with righteous judgement, but they'd obviously have to be judging themselves well before they got to that point. And, most people lie to themselves and think they have the right to judge because of pride.
The world would be much better off if people just judged themselves and left others alone (so long as those others aren't hurting them or someone asking for help).
This is another example of how important communication is. I'm inclined to say "John" holds the most responsibility as he was responsible for organizing the event. Everyone could have communicated better. The audience could have appreciated something different. Jane could have gone above and beyond to research what would please the audience, but overall John should have researched and communicated to make sure Jane would deliver what matched the audience expectations.
John was clearly the one to blame. If you're going to ask someone to sing a song in front of an audience you know best then it's also your responsibility to make it clear to the singer what you'd like and how you'd like it to be sung.
John is responsible.
He was contracting a service at an event, no different than catering or decorating. If he was foolish enough to make his choice off of hear say and pay money for the service, without even sampling the product, then that's on him.
What if it had been food and the cook served up intestines and entrails, with sides of monkey brains?? In many countries those are delicacies. As a consumer, it is your responsibility to ensure the product you choose to pay money for, meets your needs, wants, tastes and purposes. Unless asked to provide a product within certain parameters, the vendor should only expect to proffer their normal wares at the negotiated price.
I bet John will think twice, about following blind recommendations in the future.
In the "aftermath" what's important is that each element honestly accepts their role in the situation rather than "pointing a finger" at someone else for unmet expectations.
I agree. I think this goes back to the verse in the bible about not pointing out a piece of sawdust/speck in someone else's eye if you've got a whole log in your own. We're supposed to judge ourselves first before we start blaming other people. Too often people hypocritically blame others to try to stay feeling clean.
{laugh} If we judged ourselves first, we'd never be blaming others! "For he who is without fault, cast the first stone" (hmm... funny, no stones cast)
Well Jesus told people to go and sin no more, so I believe there are righteous people without sin who could judge with righteous judgement, but they'd obviously have to be judging themselves well before they got to that point. And, most people lie to themselves and think they have the right to judge because of pride.
The world would be much better off if people just judged themselves and left others alone (so long as those others aren't hurting them or someone asking for help).