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Saviors Take The Weight of the World On Their Shoulders
Taking responsibility that isn't rightfully yours will make you exhausted
Many people believe they have a duty to be unhappy. They look at those who they perceive to be victims and they think, “So long as people are suffering, I must too.”
I have explained that the drama triangle only works if you (acting as “savior”) don’t think other people (perceived “victims”) should be responsible for themselves and/or you don’t think you need to take personal responsibility for yourself (victim mentality).
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What those who play “savior” or “rescuer” do is try to take the responsibility of the perceived “victim” onto themselves. So, for instance, the white liberal sees “people of color” (their term) as “victims” unable to get a voter ID card (racism of low expectations). So the white liberal then takes the responsibility onto themselves to make sure laws are passed for “no voter ID required.” They don’t work to make it easier to get IDs which may be a political motivation, but could simply be because they’re lazy.
I don’t know their motivation there, but the point is that the person with a savior mentality takes on responsibility from thousands to millions or billions of people onto themselves. It depends on what particular political cause strikes them as most important. But, the climate activists think they’re trying to save every single person on earth and all of their future lineage. That is a lot of misplaced responsibility.
I’ve heard someone say that those who believe the world is overly populated (and that we need to lower birth rates) have an incorrect core belief. Besides the fact that overpopulation is a myth, many of the children who are not being born could have become inventors and invented better ways to help with overcrowding, etc. The responsibility could be those individual people’s to fix those things.
But, so many with a savior mentality want to take that responsibility away from others and place it all on their own shoulders. It’s why they are so exhausted all the time. That responsibility to care for every single person on earth was never theirs in the first place.
I believe God is capable of taking care of these needs, but, of course, due to free will, we have to work with God. We all need to be personally responsible for ourselves. I understand that those who don’t believe in some god that can help us (to do the unimaginable fixing that needs doing) will feel as if they have a burden placed on them. But we have so many talented people in this world and people sell themselves and others short far too often.
I understand this nanny-state from our government is a form of this, and it’s a reflection of what is going on inside of so many in our schools. Furthermore, I understand it’s more the females of the species who are doing this. With so many women having fewer children, the desire to mother, nurture, and care for people has been transferred onto society as a whole and become a political agenda.
I am no different in the sense that I write to try to help humanity understand the true path to freedom comes from personal responsibility.
But I will not force this belief onto others and I don’t go out like an evangelist telling everyone they’re going to pay (or go to hell) if they don’t agree with me. There’s no need to be obnoxious. Those who want help will ask and find it. For everyone else (who won’t ask for help), you’re just wasting time and energy on a pointless errand trying to help them. They may not even need help. Many with a savior mentality imagine that others need help when they don’t.
So many today take responsibility upon themselves that was never meant for them and then they wear themselves out. They won’t let themselves be happy because they’re always concerned about caring for others or trying to stop the “persecutors” of their perceived “victims.” Of course, it’s exhausting.
But, you can’t think of solutions when you’re stuck inside the problem. Your mind literally can’t see all of the possibilities when you’re laser-focused on what is going wrong.
Every once in a while you need to rest. You need to take a break. You need to find things to appreciate and be happy about. This is why the woke and communism won’t “win.” Remember to enjoy life. Find things you love and make lists of appreciation. Joy is your superpower to think of new, brilliant ideas, which I would call divine inspiration. You all, and everyone else has this ability.
Try to recognize in your own life where you might be taking on someone’s responsibility. It should be easy to do. People wore masks and got vaccinated en masse because they took on the responsibility for other people’s health. This responsibility shifting and burdening oneself for others happens a lot today.
When you see a place where you are taking on too much responsibility try to figure out a way to mentally stop worrying so much, and start to look for ways in which that person is capable of doing things themselves. The “savior” role is one of condescension, because it says, “I see that you cannot do this yourself, so I must do it for you.”
Let’s leave that notion behind where we can.