Great post on many fronts. I've had this happen to me in similar ways and it's definitely a red flag that someone was triggered and instead of looking at why, or engaging curiously, then trying to provoke. The world we live in now is filled with this, instead of, as you noted, asking questions. Assumptions from reading one post are magnified completely out of bounds to what was said, aren't what was inferred and are never clarified because commenters sometimes just seem to want a dopamine hit or to feed the ego....or something along those lines. I've even had someone share a post of mine only to insult in the post...it's weird, why go to all that trouble to be so negative then give free marketing away at the same time.
The people who you meet on social media are often in a fear state, procrastinating (freeze mode - doom scrolling), fawning (sucking up to "saviors"), or fighting. You're not often dealing with someone who is just having a wonderful day.
I think Substack is a bit more on that lovely day, here to read and write for fun side, than say Facebook or Twitter. But it still happens here for sure. I mean plenty of writers are making money writing about "persecutors" and playing "victim" or "Savior" so of course they will bring that to the comment section or Notes as well.
And, because of "splitting" (seeing things as good vs evil, savior vs persecutor, and dehumanizing the others) people don't give others the benefit of the doubt any longer. I've written about how we should bring back the "benefit of the doubt" in the past as well. https://www.thedramaofitall.com/i/137715095/bring-back-the-benefit-of-the-doubt
What is this? I find acknowledgements that some people need to shut up and grow up, there are people for who trauma is real, everyone has their own problems, what works for one person does not work for everyone, life sucks, and you condensed it into a few short paragraphs? You pretty much just wrote A Guide to Common Sense Adulting 101.
People have always had physical traumas. And, yes, SOME emotional ones. But I think the emotional trauma (and not dealing with it in healthy ways) has risen exponentially in the past hundred years, especially since people are acting as it's "always been this way." We can disagree on that point. But that is where we may disagree and why we may see this differently.
A person who grew up in a family hating themselves (because they didn't feel loved for their authentic self) may grow up and want to change genders to gain love. That's just going to compound the trauma. But our society is now applauding that as a brave move. In the past, society would have recognized that the person had trauma and worked to heal that, rather than make it worse in an attempt to "make it better." This is an extreme example but it's something that is happening and it's happening because the people who are applauding it, in my humble opinion, have un-dealt-with trauma as well, so they're projecting their desires and beliefs onto the children.
Even if our trauma occurrences were "normal" (and not getting worse recently), the problem is that people are attempting to heal themselves or clean up their lives to have a better one by putting band-aids on the issue (through medication, surgeries, and the like) and they are ignoring actually healing the root cause. That damages them, and it damages everyone they interact with who conform to those beliefs.
Yes, I agree that everyone individual has the responsibility to heal themselves and not choose to stay playing the victim, obviously. But it's clear to me that our society is not looking at the root causes of trauma and healing it.
Another example, as I started this out, with the requiring masks and vaccines to be worn/taken by others. Those people are not dealing with the trauma that makes them so terrified. They're putting a band-aid on the issue by forcing other people to bend to their wills. Their avoidance of their trauma-caused terror of disease is having effects in other people's lives. We should want those people to be healed so they would stop requiring others to take on the responsibility of making them feel safe.
Great post on many fronts. I've had this happen to me in similar ways and it's definitely a red flag that someone was triggered and instead of looking at why, or engaging curiously, then trying to provoke. The world we live in now is filled with this, instead of, as you noted, asking questions. Assumptions from reading one post are magnified completely out of bounds to what was said, aren't what was inferred and are never clarified because commenters sometimes just seem to want a dopamine hit or to feed the ego....or something along those lines. I've even had someone share a post of mine only to insult in the post...it's weird, why go to all that trouble to be so negative then give free marketing away at the same time.
I have written before about how people who are in a fear state often procrastinate (slip into freeze mode) on social media here: https://lawofattraction.substack.com/p/threatened-people-procrastinate-on
The people who you meet on social media are often in a fear state, procrastinating (freeze mode - doom scrolling), fawning (sucking up to "saviors"), or fighting. You're not often dealing with someone who is just having a wonderful day.
I think Substack is a bit more on that lovely day, here to read and write for fun side, than say Facebook or Twitter. But it still happens here for sure. I mean plenty of writers are making money writing about "persecutors" and playing "victim" or "Savior" so of course they will bring that to the comment section or Notes as well.
And, because of "splitting" (seeing things as good vs evil, savior vs persecutor, and dehumanizing the others) people don't give others the benefit of the doubt any longer. I've written about how we should bring back the "benefit of the doubt" in the past as well. https://www.thedramaofitall.com/i/137715095/bring-back-the-benefit-of-the-doubt
That is so true! The split of extremes seems to be ever present.
What is this? I find acknowledgements that some people need to shut up and grow up, there are people for who trauma is real, everyone has their own problems, what works for one person does not work for everyone, life sucks, and you condensed it into a few short paragraphs? You pretty much just wrote A Guide to Common Sense Adulting 101.
People have always had physical traumas. And, yes, SOME emotional ones. But I think the emotional trauma (and not dealing with it in healthy ways) has risen exponentially in the past hundred years, especially since people are acting as it's "always been this way." We can disagree on that point. But that is where we may disagree and why we may see this differently.
A person who grew up in a family hating themselves (because they didn't feel loved for their authentic self) may grow up and want to change genders to gain love. That's just going to compound the trauma. But our society is now applauding that as a brave move. In the past, society would have recognized that the person had trauma and worked to heal that, rather than make it worse in an attempt to "make it better." This is an extreme example but it's something that is happening and it's happening because the people who are applauding it, in my humble opinion, have un-dealt-with trauma as well, so they're projecting their desires and beliefs onto the children.
Even if our trauma occurrences were "normal" (and not getting worse recently), the problem is that people are attempting to heal themselves or clean up their lives to have a better one by putting band-aids on the issue (through medication, surgeries, and the like) and they are ignoring actually healing the root cause. That damages them, and it damages everyone they interact with who conform to those beliefs.
Yes, I agree that everyone individual has the responsibility to heal themselves and not choose to stay playing the victim, obviously. But it's clear to me that our society is not looking at the root causes of trauma and healing it.
Another example, as I started this out, with the requiring masks and vaccines to be worn/taken by others. Those people are not dealing with the trauma that makes them so terrified. They're putting a band-aid on the issue by forcing other people to bend to their wills. Their avoidance of their trauma-caused terror of disease is having effects in other people's lives. We should want those people to be healed so they would stop requiring others to take on the responsibility of making them feel safe.