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Karl Straub's avatar

Hi Barbara, I got your email and wanted to say here that even though politically it seems we are on opposite sides,

1. I find my side irritating too

2. You’ve always been nice to me on here and I’m very glad to hear you’re having a slightly easier time dealing with some trauma.

That’s a trite way to put it, maybe, but however I put it, if it’s good for you, I’m glad! Keep feeling better, and any time you want to talk about being mistreated, I promise I will never see you as a person who’s acting like a victim. I get why you don’t want to come across that way, and believe me, you don’t.

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Barbara Wegner's avatar

Thanks. I sent the email to pretty much all my subscribers (at least those who have interacted with my emails in the past who might be wondering why I haven't written lately). But it was a bit more personal, and less drama related and didn't really need to be a Substack article.

I don't really feel as if a I have a political "side" unless we're talking about people who believe freedom is best. I have a desire for freedom, which I think most people actually want, but don't know how to get without being terrified.

I care less about coming across as a victim then I care about losing my power. When people take on the victim mentality they stop doing what's in their best interest and feel powerless in their lives. I think we all have a desire for power over our own lives too. People just tend to think power over others is the best way to get it, to which I disagree.

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Karl Straub's avatar

That’s a very perceptive observation, the bit about power--and I will try to remember it.

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